I found
this post on MetaFilter about telecommunication culture and habits and it had a little questionnaire that I thought it'd be fun to answer over here:
Demographics: late 30s white person, mostly grew up on the East Coast and now technically living on the West Coast (albeit as a full-time traveling catsitter at the moment).
1. Do you text before calling?I even always text someone a "hey I'm going to call you" before doing it; I never just call someone, not even my own family.
2. Do you avoid phone calls in general?Yes, in general, but it was much worse when I was younger, where I was almost too anxious to actually do it. Then I was forced to make calls as part of my job (library calling people to come pick up their holds) so I got used to ignoring the anxiety.
Now I can do it without stressing as much, and I'll even call (local) businesses if I think I can get a quicker answer than an email.
In specific: I do schedule regular phone calls with my parents, and my brother calls me twice a year (we do text a lot between). I also do phone calls with pet owners, but otherwise all my other friends just use chat apps or texting to keep in touch.
3. Do you do phone calls in public settings?Yes, but it's not my favorite and I try to find a quiet place to talk. I once had a phone call on a bus (10 years ago) and felt self-conscious the whole time, and haven't repeated the experience.
I despise hearing other people's conversations, despite being a fairly nosy person in general. It feels invasive, especially when they put it to speakerphone and don't tell the person on the other end that everyone can hear them.
4. Do you let calls or texts interrupt in-person conversations?Not normally, no. I usually have my phone on silent anyway when I'm having a conversation with someone.
On the other hand, if the other person is on their phone the whole time then I'll be on mine, too. (My family has a bad habit of this.)
5. Do you refrain from calling or texting during certain hours?I don't text people enough to need to restrict it to certain hours. On the other hand, I much prefer making phone calls in the morning vs. afternoon or evening. I'll try to schedule calls for earlier in the day if possible.
6. Do you turn off your texting or voice call sounds / notifications at certain hours?My phone is set to go to silent/do not disturb mode automatically at 7pm and turn off at 7am. However, I do still text after 7pm (if I feel like it) I just don't have the sound going off.
To extend on this: I also have it set to silence incoming calls from people not on my contacts lists, which means all spammers are silenced and unfortunately so is everyone else. But I do check my voicemail somewhat regularly so I can catch people who aren't spammers.
7. Do you have a land line, smart phone or dumb phone? Do you use them differently?I only have a smart phone. I had a land line as a child into young adulthood, but my parents go rid of that soon after cell phones became more popular. Maybe 2008?
As for email: I'd like people to email me more but I can't get anyone to respond to me IN my email. If I email my mother she'll respond in text. If I email my brother he responds on Discord. etc. etc.
Some indie web bloggers have a "respond by email" link on their posts and I'm thisclose to actually doing it. I think it just feels so formal that there's an intimidation factor to actually doing it, vs. just responding on social media or something.